I'd like to bring to your attention the charity I have started in my daughters memory.
She sadly passed away in November. She was born 11 weeks early and spent most of her life in hospital, however did come home as a healthy, albeit tiny little girl. When she passed away, it caused untold devastation, but I couldn't let her death be for 'nothing'. Something positive had to come from our heartache, and as such Indie's Gift was created.
The 17th October 2013, was the happiest day of our lives, Indie was able to come home. Weighing in at a tiny 4lbs, but perfect in every way. Coming home was incredibly special, not only because we had a healthy, beautiful daughter but we have 2 other children, whose life had also been turned upside down by Indie's sudden arrival. It meant our life could resume some normality; I would be able to spend time with all my children, rather than split between SCBU and home. The following weeks were full of doctorâ€™s appointments, hospital visits, health visitor appointments etc, but everything went well. Indie was gaining weight, albeit slowly, she was getting there. On the 22nd November 2013, our lives were to change forever. Our perfect little girl passed away at 3:50am.
As a mum, this makes me feel cheated. Cheated because we did all the 'hard work'. The minutes, hours, days, weeks sat by the incubator praying she would make it through, Indie proving what stern stuff she was made of by making the 'perfect' recovery, for her to stolen away from us when she was just settling into our family. Personally, I've had every range of emotion for a human to possibly feel. Anger, desperation, sadness, helplessness, sorrow, devastation to name but a few, but as the days turned into weeks since Indie passed, the overwhelming feeling I had was one of gratitude. Grateful that I got those precious 11 weeks with my daughter.
Without the support of doctors and nurses at all 3 hospitals that we resided in, we would not have had those 11 weeks and I felt compelled to do something, anything to be able to pay back what they gave us. Nothing will ever be enough for these unsung saints in the hospital SCBU/NICU departments, but if we could just do something to help. After a few days of thinking, Indie's Gift was born.
Our aim is to provide ClothPacks and NeoPacks to the SCBU/NICU in order to help ease a tiny portion of the stress facing parents of children who start life in SCBU. Our ClothPacks will contain: 1 Vest
1 Sleepsuit/Babygro 1 Hat
1 Set of Mittens & 1 Blanket
These items are NOT provided for babies on the NHS. These items are sometimes available in SCBUs from donations they receive from other parents; our aim is to have a pack available for every baby that enters the SCBU.
We also aim to provide a NeoPack for parents of SCBU babies, this will contain:
Notepad & Pen Information and Support Sheets
These items may seem small or even trivial, but when youâ€™re thrown into a situation that you have no control over, the last thing on your mind is to sort these little essential items out. To be able to have a wash and brush your teeth is simply the best feeling - from someone who has personally been in the situation, it really is! Hereford County SCBU will be the first to benefit from our charity.
I am a mum on a mission, to help other parents and babies that find themselves in the same position as I did, and hopefully be able to support them with the essentials, as well as an email advice/support service.
I started this alone, and do everything for this entirely by myself. I am hoping to gather more support for Indie's Gift, ultimately our aim for 2014 is to raise the Â£5,000 needed to apply to become a registered charity. If you have any of the items on the list that you would like to donate, I would be ever so grateful. I would also welcome any fundraising idea's you may have! I have no experience in working within/running a charity, so please bare with me as I'm learning as I go!
Our website is: www.indiesgift.co.uk - There is a gallery and also an 'About Us' section which has a more detailed story; maybe have some tissue handy? and our Facebook page is www.facebook.com/indiesgift Thank you for taking the time to read this and I look forward to hearing from some of you soon.
Stacey Martin. Indieâ€™s mummy.